For so much of my life, I have felt disconnected from the world, it’s hard to put it into words. After all, it’s not the “normal” thing to say or feel I guess but there you have it.
It’s quite odd to talk about this, then again the world has gotten pretty odd recently so maybe now is the best time to write about it?
The world is a funny place at the moment, everyone saying that we need to be a certain way, look a certain way, the list goes on. There was a time when if you were having a negative thought or day it would pass. Now there are thousands of external influences and social media platforms telling us that we can’t have a bad day that we need to be positive etc. Also, did you see how “insert your idol” doing such amazing things or someone who was super productive?
I dont know maybe this might resonate with you? Feeling a little lost in a world that is supposed to have it all together. Well, I am here to tell you that life sucks sometimes and that’s okay. To not have negative times makes us not appreciate the good times, it could also be a form of denying the negative thoughts. Could it in itself be that the avoidance of the negative is negative in itself? Maybe.
To accept and even embrace the negative can help us to define whether these thoughts matter, are they something that we want to care about. These mini realisations can’t stop us from reacting this way they can help us to reframe our initial reaction and change course. So that we only allow what we want to care about enter our thought process.
Here are a few closing comments that might help you to assess these thoughts.
- Where are these thoughts coming from?
- Why do you care about this thought?
- What evidence do you have for these thoughts?
- Are these thoughts going to help you to move forwards in your life?
Some interesting questions, however, the more we understand how we feel, the more we can determine how we use those thoughts and which thoughts are worth caring about.